Attachment Styles and Desires in a Relationship (anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment)

Attachment Styles and Desires

Addressing desires in a relationship can be scary and challenging. But why? What makes it scary? Where are the challenges coming from? And how can we become more and more comfortable to address these challenges?

Needs and Values

I say this a lot, but most of us want certain things in a relationship related to our needs and our values and we can identify exactly what those things are, but there can be hang ups decreasing the comfort of getting there.

If we have all of these things we will feel very secure and fulfilled. While we might have an understanding of what we want or need to feel the best, we may have other aspects of ourselves that are very protective in the means by which we try addressing what we want.

If I lack something that was previously denied me in my childhood, I will likely become insecure if I believe there is a likelihood of those denials coming up during a relationship. We usually try and avoid being denied.

Are you able to identify any insecurity patterns arising in your family, friend, professional, casual or romantic relationships? What comes easiest for you? And do you know how to manage the challenges? For more expansion on this topic visit the podcast!